Be selfish and help others...?

In a week's time I am off to give blood again, I know loads of people do this and I am not looking for a pat on the back for this as I only started giving blood again about 2 years ago, after a long break of about 20 years!  I kept meaning to do it but there was always something else which took priority.

Now I am back into the habit of it and of course I have some available time to do it now the kids are both at school.  I am now part of the Interval Study which is looking at whether it is safe for people to donate more regularly than the current system which is every 4 months for females, so I am going every 3 months and so far I feel fine.  See details here:  http://www.blood.co.uk/donor-information/

There is something so personal about giving blood, there is something more to it than giving money to charity (which of course is a great thing to do if you can)  It seems such a simple thing to do but I get such a rewarding feeling, like I am giving something of myself (which in a way is exactly what we are doing when we give blood)  all it takes is giving up a bit of time, and you get a biscuit and drink after!!  Which I confess was the original reason why I did it over 20 years ago, that and also having half an hour out of work as I worked for the NHS at the time and they allowed us time to go and donate!  I like to think I am a little less selfish now and a bit less biscuit orientated!  But having said that I have heard a saying that the most selfish thing you can do is help someone else - as we get so many personal benefits from a simple act of giving or helping.  An interesting article here about this very subject -http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/kindness_makes_you_happy_and_happiness_makes_you_kind/

If you don't already donate but think it is something you could do, then see the Blood Donor website and check if you are eligible, it is painless and the staff have always been so lovely and grateful.  I have also met some amazing people at the donor centres who have been donating for many, many years and quietly do so without the need to go on about it in a blog!! ;)

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Meditating on Tinnitus!

I have had tinnitus on and off for the last 20+ years, it is thought to be part of my vestibular migraine condition.

I can remember first becoming aware of it and wondering how the hell I could carry on with this incessant whistling and whooshing in my ear.  The more frustrated I got the louder the tinnitus became - as if mocking me.  It kind of took on a life of it's own.  Around this time I went to Milan on a business trip (just working on an exhibition stand - so not as glamorous as it sounds!) and I remember the sheer effort and energy it took to really hear people over the sound in my ear.  I wondered how I could go on with this annoying sound always there.  There were some occasions when I thought I might go mad.  Luckily for me after a few months the sound subsided a little (or maybe I just got used to them) and I was able to go about my daily life without it troubling me too much.   But over the years it has returned on many occasions - sometimes very loud and staying with me for months on end.

Now I have a regular yoga and meditation practice I do find it easier to deal with, when the sound is there, it's just there.  I can interpret that sound as annoying or upsetting but that is my choice.....or I can think to myself, it is a sound my brain is perceiving, it is not going to kill me.  I even use the sound sometimes as an anchor for my awareness when in meditation, much like I use my breath as focus for awareness. Using the Tibetan singing bowls has also helped me feel like I have some sort of control over it.

The lessons I learnt from this were to change my own perceptions - I don't have a choice about the tinnitus - it is there most of the time, but I can control my response to it.  I can soften my shoulders, slow my breathing and listen with interest to what sound it decides to be today!  I think this technique can be applied to many situations in life, so maybe you don't have an annoying sound in your ear - maybe you have an annoying person/situation in your life.  You can be in control of your response to them.......you have the choice.......

I have also found some relief using a product called Hush Tinnitus, these are sounds which you can download and listen to in order to gain relief both whilst listening and for some people the effect lasts for some time after. Binaural beats are also a useful tool - there are many on You Tube which you may want to have a listen to (with headphones)

I know there are millions of people who also experience this condition, so I hope this post has helped some of those people realise that they have control over their response to it (and to everything)

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Parent & Toddler Yoga - lessons learnt....

I started my Parent and Toddler yoga class in September 2013, it's been chaos, fun, enlightening, relaxing, rewarding, exhilarating and down right knackering (especially when I am being a jumping bean or a penguin) but mainly it has been a wonderful learning experience.  Yes this is going to be an overly emotional and gushing post but I'm like that when it comes to little kids....

We all know that children are unique and special in their own way but witnessing them develop and grow within the yoga class setting has been a revelation.  When it's our own children we are aware of their development but oftentimes we can become so bogged down with the day to day stuff we forget to sit back and marvel at how amazing they are.  In my classes I have been able to observe with more of an objective eye as these aren't my own children.

When I used to take my boys to classes (and we went to so many - baby signing, baby yoga, rhythm and rhyme time, the list goes on)  I was always very focused on my children and what they were or weren't doing, sometimes marvelling at how outgoing some kids were and how fearless of strangers they seemed to be (while mine would hide their faces and cling to my leg!)  But actually there are many kids who are not loud and gregarious, I have seen them in my yoga classes, but when you are the Mum you tend to only focus on your own kids and the ones who are different - because the contrast is so stark.

But with a little care and gentle attention those quieter ones who don't want to join in everything, slowly begin to trust and start little by little to let their guard down.  In all yoga classes there is no competition and this is true of a kids class too, it's fine to watch and take everything in and then try it out at home or quietly on the mat when the other kids are singing and dancing.  I really hope that the children who have attended the classes have gained something that they can take through the rest of their lives, I hope a little seed has been planted in them so that they will continue their yoga or come back to it many years down the line.

I am still working with boosting the confidence of my own children, using mindfulness techniques, yoga and a little bit of Buddhist philosophy thrown in as they seem to be the sort of kids that will really benefit from this approach - both are over thinkers like their Mother!!

Yoga is great for everybody but if you have a child who seems to be lacking in confidence and tends to hang back and not join in, then a children's yoga class could really help them.  Most areas have some sort of children's yoga classes locally and if not, there are some amazing videos on You Tube.  Check out Cosmic Kids Yoga, one of the kids yoga training courses I did was with Cosmic Kids Yoga and they really are captivating stories, that younger children really get involved with.  Click the link to check it out -  Cosmic Kids Yoga

For more details about my classes for both adults and children see www.yogiclaire.com

Instigating Change....

I blog a lot about things changing and the impermanence of everything, it seems relevant every single day of our  lives.  Sometimes 'things' just change organically but other times we need to be intelligent and proactive and instigate these changes for the good of our health and to benefit those around us.

My personal yoga practice has changed massively over the last 6 months for various reasons.  I have blogged about my dreaded migraines, so this has affected my practice and I have been having some physio to help my neck pain which could possibly be linked to the migraine problem.

After the first physio session I felt completely and utterly deflated as she told me how stiff my neck and upper back were, my reaction was so ego driven it was untrue - what me?? A yoga practitioner with a stiff neck/back - how can it be??  But then when I started to think about all the stuff I have done in the past which have contributed to my neck issues it's hardly surprising I am experiencing neck troubles now, things like driving 6 hours straight without a break, swimming breast stroke with my head out of the water, head-banging in rock clubs(I kid you not!) and also a life long habit of sleeping in a prone position (not good apparently)  My physio advised me to lay off the headstands for a while, so it has been about 2 months since I have been into a headstand, at first I was itching to do it because I have been doing different headstand variations most days for many years.  So there I was facing up to my ridiculous attachment to a yoga posture......again!

It has given me time to embrace other aspects of the practice, my meditation times have increased, and I have been using some healing mantras which are amazingly therapeutic and soothing.  My physical practice has become more like the yoga which I teach, which is gentle, nurturing and with an occasional invitation to challenge.  My balance has been very difficult due to the dizziness and complete deafness in one ear but each day I try to practice at least one balance posture and have no expectation of a result and I think it is improving.

As time goes on everything will change, kids grow up, people die, shit happens and yoga practice changes whether we like it or not, it's when we become resistant to change that problems arise.  If we are too attached to anything including our yoga practice - then we suffer.

I recently attended an amazing pranayama workshop with Pranayama Master Sri O.P.Tiwari and he told a story about attachments which really resonated with me:

'There once was a dedicated yogi who was told by his teacher that if he practiced each and everyday for 3 hours that he would eventually meet with God.  So for many years he practiced diligently, one day there was a knock on the door - it was God "just wait a minute" he shouted "I've only done one hour of practice - I haven't finished yet!"

He had become so attached to the practice itself he had lost sight of what he was doing it for!  This can happen so often in our lives - we miss the bigger picture, we can become obsessed with the minutiae of life.

So whether change happens outside of our control or whether we need to instigate it ourselves, we need to accept it as an inevitable part of life, let's have a flexible mind and allow ourselves to be carried along with the flow but gently guiding that flow if we need to......


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When Worlds Collide....

I attended the Yoga Show with my Mum in Manchester today.  There were several reasons for wanting to attend but I had a few reservations about going as I thought maybe I would see some things as 'not really yoga'  I worry a bit about how commercial yoga has become - about how it is portrayed that you need these clothes and that accessory to practice yoga, when really all you need is your body and an open mind, some would argue that you 'need' a mat but I have practiced many times without one.

I found myself being drawn in by some of the stuff  "oh wow I really need another Ganesh statue" that kind of thing.....which was a bit disconcerting as I am always trying to de-clutter and simplify my life, but that's marketing for you, I should know I studied it and worked in a sales and marketing role for over 12 years.  In fact that was one of the other reasons I wanted to attend, because I spent a considerable amount of time in my 'old job' working on exhibition stands both in the UK and also abroad and I can remember all the hard work I had to do to get a sale!!  I wanted to experience what it was like to be a visitor to an exhibition.  I know it's not quite the same thing because the industry is very different, but it sort of feels like a conflict, yoga and sales/marketing - but I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that yoga is big business and I suppose I am part of it. 

Another reason for going was to see my Mum's reaction to everything there, she has taught yoga for over 30 years and I am fascinated by what she thinks of the yoga world in 2014.  But she took everything in and liked some stuff and wasn't keen on other stuff - but just let it all go.  She didn't get annoyed by anything she saw.   We both loved the Iyengar demo as it was very professional and to the point and we both stocked up on teas and coconut water - because we like it - not because it will make us better yogis!!

So - it is what it is - my old world of sales and marketing colliding with my yoga world and I have to accept that some of it is not for me and some of it is wonderful and exciting.  So all in all we had a lovely morning of mooching round the show, people watching while we had our lunch, and maybe even thinking about attending next year.


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What if....we stopped worrying?

I used to be a habitual 'what-if-er'  Planning for all eventualities in most things, I suppose it is a need for control - driven by fear.  In fact most negative emotions seem to have their root in fear.  When I was doing my Sales job over 10 years ago, I used to plan my trips meticulously - ridiculously in fact.  I mean it's all very well being organised but when I did my regular trips over to Ireland I would have a whole folder full of schedules planned out for each day, allowing time for being stuck in traffic (or being stuck behind a herd of cattle on the rural Irish roads!)  I do remember one time factoring so much extra time when driving from Shannon up to Belfast, I ended up 4 hours early for an appointment.  I had breakfasted alone in the hotel restaurant as it wasn't officially open at 5.30am (they made a special arrangement, the Irish hoteliers are very accommodating)  This was all rooted in the fear of being late for an appointment and being labelled as unprofessional.

I am not such a control freak anymore, I am pleased to say.  This has been a by-product of my yoga practice and also of being a parent.  But last week I was shocked to wake up to one of my migraines, just opened my eyes and the room was spinning.  This had nothing to do with wine as I am now virtually t-total!  My eyes were doing that weird side to side thing - the medical name for it is nystagmus.  I was due to look after my sister's kids as well as my own and also due to teach a class in the evening.  So my husband worked from home and my Mum (who always comes to my rescue) came round to help while I was alternately lying in bed and being sick......but all the while I was 'what-iffing'  I was due to teach a workshop the following Saturday which was fully booked and all I could think was - 'what if I wake up on Saturday morning and am dizzy like this??'  I struggled to drag my carcass into the bathroom, never mind lead a workshop.  So then I thought OK - what would I actually do?  I would arrange for someone to put a sign on the door of the venue or better still get them to stay at the venue and tell people what had happened, I am sure people would be a bit disappointed at having their time wasted, but I am certain they would understand.  Also the alternative would be never to organise any workshops at all, just in case I had a migraine, so by that token - better stop teaching altogether.......best just sit at home waiting for another migraine to come.  Obviously that is not a way to live a life and as it turned out - the migraine passed within about  3 hours and I was actually able to teach the class on the same evening.  The workshop went ahead as planned, with no drama and I thoroughly enjoyed teaching it.

Sometimes we all make a big deal about small things and have a tendency to worry about things that will never happen.  Best to just stay with the moment and then worry about it when stuff actually does go wrong.  Worrying can be such a waste of precious time, energy and of life.........

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A Yoga-versary!!

I can't quite believe it has been 3 years since I started the Thursday evening yoga class at Sale Moor Methodist Church.  I can remember going to the church to have a look at the room - not sure why I needed to, as I am so familiar with the church.  I went to playgroup and Brownies there and also both of my sons went to playgroup there.  I had my 9th Birthday party there, in the cellar with my Dad playing DJ!!  Anyway, right from the start it seemed like it was meant to be, round the corner from my house is so very convenient - especially as my youngest child was only about 18 months old and I still wanted to feed and put him to bed before leaving the house to teach the class!

The room is perfect for yoga, it has a calm and serene feel to it - some of the ladies of the congregation sew banners for the walls which change with the seasons and with the religious festivals and they are so beautiful to look at whether you're a spiritual or religious person or not.  I remember one evening when I was having a bit of a tough time as we all do - I looked up and the banner that was there said "Do not fear, I am always with you"  it really seemed like a message meant for me, I saw it as a message from all the friends and family I have lost over the years, but also a message from my Mum who I have a bit of a psychic connection with.  She often says "I was thinking of you...." if I am going through anything difficult, even back in my school days doing exams she would send me positive vibes and it really helped to know she was thinking of me!  ( I think she gets a bit embarrassed when I reference her in my blog - so sorry Mum!!)

So here we are, 3 years down the line and I hope I have gone some way to achieving what I set out to achieve, non-intimidating, community yoga classes which are affordable, where everyone feels welcome and where we all look out for each other.  No-one cares what clothes you wear, what mat you have, what job you do, or how far you go into a posture......we are all there just to do our yoga.  A coming together of like minded people.

Of course this is another excuse for me to bake!! So we will have some very rustic chocolate drizzled gingerbread yogis to take home from the class this evening - just my little thank you to everyone who supports the classes.  It is down to you and your dedication that the classes can keep running.

The Thursday class is one of several I teach in the area - see my website for details:  www.yogiclaire.com